My H was took a very long time making the slighest decission in most everything. Many times, he just shook his head and didn't make a decision at all. Over time, it became very tiring for me. It was not attractive.

I wanted my H to be more of a "take charge" kind of man. I wanted him to be the leader of our family. It was a major problem, and I believe I began losing a certain amount of respect for him b/c I identified his lack of taking charge with "weakness".

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!