I need to expand on that a bit. The *why bother* part is probably not exactly correct.
It's more that he doesn't know how to do it and it's scary for him. This is not an excuse as he could learn to do it if he wanted. Just like I have learned new skills.
In his world, it's seemingly easier not to.
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Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss