DETACH


Starsky said it above.
It is the basic advice that I give to all newbies.
So far the best I can see is that you have failed at it miserably.

Basic DB, have a beginners mind.

Maybe that is what you need to do with detachment.
Start over, relearn what it is, there are two or three websites about it.

Then just - DO IT!

Me-70, D37,S36