Help! What happens now?

[NASCARDaddy]

The important thing to remember is that the only thing you can control is yourself. This is a hard lesson to learn and one that I am still working on. Obsessive and paranoid thoughts only hurt you; your WAS isn't going to be affected by them at all. It's hard and it takes time. You can get addicted to negative obsessive thoughts. But you have to break the cycle.

It is okay to be hurt and afraid. It is even okay to be hopeful. But you have to go on with your life. If it was meant to be then he will come back to you, and if not then you are better off without him.

You have two choices right now, you can either let this experience break you or it can make you a better person. I am gonna guess that by coming here looking for answers you are at least leaning toward the latter. So decide what you want to do that will make you better.

Taming negative thoughts takes time. When you find yourself thinking them try and find something else to think about. Don't tell yourself you will not think negative thoughts because then, like pink elephants, that is all that will come to mind. Instead tell yourself that you will think positive thoughts and with practice and time they will come.

So, what do we say to negative thoughts? Not today.