telling my story of the cuckoo

[forward]

PF, If the posts are making you nuts, and they ARE nuts, then you know where his mind is, it means you can't really plan, and you can take a break.

So I did a lot of the things that you did. And even though we've been D a long time, X asked me to help him with something. I've been quite sick and after a while it was like "I prefer not to."

And you know, I thought, no, really, I don't feel like it. Now I work on my own stuff. And I realize how codependent it is to work on someone else's stuff.

It is fun to work on not being codependent! I went out with new people, bought new music, new clothes, new me.

I am so sorry about the child. I cannot even imagine your pain. While I did not lose a child, I had had multiple miscarriages and that had deflated us.

If I may, consider counseling for yourself. DBing is good. I did everything I could, and I can rest easy with that now.

my X D me for "girl child," but when the chips were down she left him (what a surprise). He's now with another woman who is terminally ill.

I have concluded that my problems just weren't big and exciting enough for him. Sympathy in his mind was reserved for people who had huge problems. Had to be bigger than his.