Wendy, If something isn't working, it's time to try something else. You are getting a divorce...stop doing things for him. He needs to learn that once the divorce is finalized, that's it. He needs to learn to take care of himself.
Please just take care of what you need to do to pack and get ready to move. As for him...leave him in the wind. There's nothing you can do to please him and yes, he's still looking to you to take care of everything and him...time to open the cage door, shove him out and allow him to learn to fly solo.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
