You know what I think is hard for us LBS is how we were comfortable in our lives, especially after being with someone for so long. IB 28 years is a LONG TIME. I was with mine 21. I was comfortable and settled, though I now our marriage needed help.
They uproot, and just move on like all those years together never happened or matters at all to them. Or they uproot and start on with someone else and still act like they wants us in their lives in every sense of the word except living together and sex.
Well given he's on to GF #2, what do you think that says about him?
What does it say about you, who's been at home making sure your children are loved, cared for and nutured while he's flaunting about with other women?
IB, he chose to walk away from his responsibilty. You chose to walk straight up to not only your responsibility,(not that you ever walked away) but his too and take it by the horns and DEAL WITH IT. Your anger keeps surfacing because its not fair! I mean come on, look at what these MLCers have done to everyone in their prior lives?
I've felt this too so much.I have been so angry for so long. I knew it was eating me alive and prayed for God to help me get through this so I could let it go. It's taken a while, but somehow my thoughts started to shift and I started to see XH and how he's living his life very differently. I no longer see someone that's out there living the high life, throwing caution to the wind and just higher than a kite. I now see someone that's made some choices that really are starting to come back on him and his life isn't so grand after all.
At least from what I've heard, his life doesn't sound all that gratifying or happy, at least I know I sure wouldn't be happy if that were me!
