FLTC, if I may: I don't think you should let ex interfere and ruin your new marriage. If you can talk to your new wife about it, you may want to agree to something to alleviate the craziness it invokes. But don't let ex ruin a good thing!
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."