If I had to mindread I'd guess he doesn't even know what it is he has to work on. Didn't you know he's perfect just as he is?
Today he told me he got an apartment and would start sleeping there this week. I said "great!" when he told me this. A few hours later and I haven't even felt a drop of sadness over that.
He wanted to talk tonight and I said that didn't work for me. I went out for a little bit and he cornered me when i got back saying that he wanted to talk bc I don't answer his phone calls and am slow to respond to emails if I do at all. Bottom line he's still trying to rush a house listing before we've got a property settlement. He argues in tantrum form ("we didn't have any problem BUYING the house before we were married so I don't see how it is any different to sell it after now.")
I reiterated that I wasn't going to rush a major decision just bc he felt pressure now that he's signed a lease.
Today I went to a group exercise class by myself for the first time (usually go with a friend). I skimmed through some more books on recovering from co-dependency to see if I wanted to buy them. I have another group ex class that i'm working into my weekly routine. I have also been working on how to be a more caring and attentive friend to some of my posse going through highs and lows right now. I see how, partly due to illness, depression, and lack of awareness/skills, I was not the best friend to people in the past. The feeling I get now from true unconditional giving is new and wonderful. I sulk continue to do more of this.
