There is no science behind it. You and I are looking for rational answers to irrational questions. It is kind of like my W telling me that I need to change and then when I agree to telling me that it is too late. It makes sense to your W. But you will only make things worse by trying to make it make sense in your mind.
M 39, W 34 M 15 S 14, S 12, S 9, D 7, D 6 Separated: 7/2/2012 Served: 7/10/2012 Divorced 11/5/2012
