second time newcomer, back for more

[NASCARDaddy]

Just remember that sometimes the hardest thing in the world to do is nothing.

[badcompany]

Well I'm not doing nothing I'm just living life, trying to be thankful for what I have an being there for her when she needs me.

[NASCARDaddy]

Well what I actually meant is that you have to accept that there are some things that you cannot control. I understand the need to try and control because right now it feels like everything is spinning out of control. For me, the hardest part was to accept that every time I tried to talk to my W about our problems I was actually pushing her away rather than drawing her in.

[badcompany]

Relatively quiet day or two on the home front.

Wife went to see her best friend that moved to Europe 3 years ago for the first time. After she got home she said 'I'm glad I went today. It helped to lift me out of the funk I've been in'

I've made a conscious effort to back off the last few days and do my own thing. Still when she talks to people she tells then how we plan on moving into a bigger house etc, like still including me in her life plans

Also there have been a few points of physical contact. Her touching my arms, or putting her hand on my leg when she tells me something in a loud room.

I know these are little things I maybe shouldn't read into, but fwiw, theyre there.

Still haven't kissed her in two weeks. Missing it. Talking to me about her depression and the 'funk' she's been in was refreshing.

[badcompany]

Had a nice day today. Very pleasant conversations, went to an amusement park with my family today. w was very nice, even held my arm in the haunted house, and said 'here babe' when handing me my drink.

Still discouraged by what she's telling friends though

Anything I did wrong ? Could have done better ?

[NASCARDaddy]

Don't listen to what she is telling her friends. It sounds like you have some hopeful signs so just focus on that and act like you are going to be okay.

[badcompany]

I just don't understand the science behind telling your best friend that you're tired of being married but then talk about getting a bigger house to live in and putting her arm in mine in the haunted house

[Starsky309]

She's CONFUSED. 'nuff said.

[NASCARDaddy]

There is no science behind it. You and I are looking for rational answers to irrational questions. It is kind of like my W telling me that I need to change and then when I agree to telling me that it is too late. It makes sense to your W. But you will only make things worse by trying to make it make sense in your mind.

[badcompany]

I just don't want her friend filling her head with BS like OM did 4 years ago

Again, something I can't control