Sorry I haven't been on the board lately, been busy with getting myself organised for work.

Vero, that's an interesting take: assertive with affection. Not quite sure how that translates in real life, but it sounds intriguing and it's something to aim for. I really like the sound of that.

Bill, the mixed signals as a protective mechanism - I can buy that. It probably is. Yeah, I can see he is protecting himself from getting too close just in case things don't work out, yet his emotions aren't allowing him to fully connect. It's a catch-22 that I would think that many reconciling couples go through.

I have to say this is a tough road - but not as tough as the total separation was.

Separation really does put your emotions through the ringer!! Something does get lost, or changes. I will know more in a few months.

He and I are in the same boat - the difference being that I don't think I give mixed signals (at least not in my mind wink. I figure my emotions will at some point catch up, but no - I can't say I am all that emotionally connected so I'm letting my head lead on this one.

My emotions are beat up and I really miss feeling connected to him. I have to say I feel far more at ease that he is back in my life, and I suppose patience (more patience!!) is required to allow the love feelings to fully return.

Does MWD talks about love being a choice.

Anyway, H asked me to go with him to see his mother next week. So, we'll have a long weekend away, just the two of us for a couple of days and then next two days off to see his mother.

I met a lovely couple today, been together 4 years. She seemed more confident in their relationship than he did - but still both in love. It was lovely to see and I wondered about that closeness and emotional warmth.

Gosh, I fantasize about having some of that again one day.

So yeah, just because you start seeing each other, there are different hurdles to overcome.