I agree with what Cadet said only you can answer those questions about whether you want to stand for your marriage. I will say that whatever you decide people on this board will be there for you. When you want to vent, or cry, or laugh, they've been there. other people in your life will tell you things that they think will make it easier "you deserve better" "you should move on" "he's a xxxx" but none of that makes it easier because he is the man you chose to spend your life with and it doesn't stop the hurt. Here people GET that.
Take ALL the time you need to decide those tough questions you mentioned. What are you doing to GAL and focus on you?
