....one more how my thinking's shifted moment today.
I got home and after living in a hotel with 3 suitcases for awhile I realised that I probably have WAY more stuff than I actually need I started thinking of having a clear out and as I was looking in cupboards and drawers and cabinets I thought about how much of this stuff I tried to hang onto when H left. I was really adament that he not "take all my stuff" and I was almost filled with anxiety that he'd be living this shiny life with all the best stuff we'd collected over the years and today I thought why on earth was I worried about him taking the souviner beach towel from X holiday?
So I texted him and said I'm having a clear out is there anything you can think of that you'd like? He said not off the top of my head but I can come over later this week if you like. I took a page from BUSTING and said "no it's fine, once I've gotten stuff together I'll let you know what's in there and you can have first pick" not on his schedule, not jumping at any chance for him to come by, not going to fill him in on my life like a puppy dog wanting approval. and I'm NOT attached to these things or worried which one of us has them.
