Quote: And then I saw one of my goals for moving closer happen right before my eyes...
Betsey, You're the greatest! Not only can you see things in other people's situations that they can't, but you're one of the few that sees things in your own for what they are.
Your positive attitude is inspiring.
Mr. W better watch out, because I think that just about everyone is ready to marry you! (females included!) Glad he's getting with the program!!!
Just sign me, Debbie Thomas (the one who DOESN'T choke!)
Hate to break it to you guys and gals, but if Mr. W. sends me packing, I have my sights set on someone here. He's a local sportscaster and I think we would look really good together...
Can't wait for the weekend news at 10 because it is the only time during the week that I will watch past the weather forecast to wait for sports, just so I can get a glimpse of his handsome face...
And don't you think that would be the perfect match for someone sports-minded like me? He would never have to come home to a woman who said, "All you ever think about is sports; won't you take a faux painting class with me instead?"
Seriously, I needed to hear this today. I'm thinking that I'm feeling a little impatient with Mr. Midlife Crisis today. I sort of feel like I've been doing this for over a year and I want some frigging answers! Well, how about a blink and a nod... one that says, "Bets, I like what I see and I'm thinking about giving this an honest Boy Scout try?"
Why the hell not?
Update: he still doesn't have travel plans for next week. He's making them today... I guess the big kahuna is requesting another day of meetings and he's trying to figure out what the schedule is so he can book the flights. And he's heading back to LA, not DC.
I'm not distressed by that at all...
Positives: He hung out after I ate my dinner for a bit just to chat and tell me about his day at work. I listened and just made some validating comments as he told me about his stress on the job. I looked at him with a raised eyebrow, and he grinned and commented, "I guess I better learn better stress management, shouldn't I?" I just smiled.
Just keep swimming, just keep swimming!
I watched the scariest episode of "Covert Operations" on A&E last night... about an elaborate plan for reconaissance and obtaining secrets before the invasion of Iraq. Man, it had my stomach in knots and I was mesmerized and glued to the set until the bitter end. Better than any fiction movies I've ever seen...
Time to get swimming...
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
Woman, you almost gave me a heart attack! When I read the line "have my sights set on someone here" I thought you meant the DB board! The thought ‘Oh GOD, not Betsey!’ actually went through my head…uf, what a way to start the day!
Now that I am breathing again…doesn’t it help to know that all of us are waiting for the old boy scout try idea to take residence in our Hs’ heads? And that in the meantime we help one another by encouraging self-growth (which, you could easily write a book on)?
Mr. W is going to do things on his own timetable. The more we try and guess at their timetables they more they change them on us. What butts they are! Damn good thing that it isn’t your job to take care of fair…because it would take some valuable time away from your true job, which is doing what is right. And you are doing it so well – what’s right, that is. Do you remember that fabulous goal that happened right before your very eyes yesterday??? And the positive that you just posted…hardly insignificant!
You’re swimming Bruce, and your guppy is just trying to catch up!
"It is not easy to find happiness in ourselves, and it is not possible to find it elsewhere."
--Agnes Repplier, writer and historian
Thanks for the words of confidence... I really need to hear them today I guess. My PMA is up, I'm not PMSing, so I'm wondering where this agitation is coming from?
I honestly can't find an answer right now... but you can bet your bottom dollar that I won't go off the crazymaking deep end or do something drastic. I'm not really feeling the need to create a mess--it's more along the lines of feeling a little weepy that I've been working my ASS off with Mr. Butthead for so long with very little affirmation.
Uh, oh, I'm realizing that I haven't had what I think I need from him... Words of Affirmation. Crap, I need to rethink things here...
Time to go off and read your e-mail, which just popped on my screen.
Hugs and a big thank you!
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
We'll give you all the words of affirmation that you can handle...you just have to be willing to accept them from us instead of Mr. W.
I'm wondering if Mr. Butthead hasn't offered as many affirming words as you'd like because he doesn't want to detriment himself. Worded another way, I bet he feels like he’s behind the race in self-growth and doesn’t want to send you further along by boosting your confidence. He might be reflecting on his own part in the marital problems and sorting out how he is going to change…and here you are just cruising along at 80 while he’s trying to figure out first gear!
Plus, I think the guys are sensing that a lot of the control is in their hands right now. We haven’t really allowed them much control over anything in the past, so they might not be ready to play their trump card just yet. They might like the feeling of holding it and knowing that it is theirs to drop when they want.
Just some thoughts…but ultimately, GO YOU!!
"It is not easy to find happiness in ourselves, and it is not possible to find it elsewhere."
--Agnes Repplier, writer and historian
I am fairly new to DB and just was reading Triple J's thread. Your advice and comments were awesome!! I decided to jump over to your thread and "read all about it". You are doing a great job!!! I am jelous!! Your seem like you are heading in the right direction.
I could sure use your imput on my sitch. Come visit me in Newcomers.
You're in HR... do you think you could send him a memo to tell him to get his act together? And if he doesn't, can you find a way to terminate his employment so I don't have to pay unemployment?
But I'm taking your words to heart... they make sense and I know you're right. And you guys DO count with the Words of Affirmation. I mean that.
I'm willing, I promise!
Go me!
Big hugs... thanks, Merry-dith.
Bets
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
I'll come by your place in a bit... thanks for stopping by and your nice words.
What's not to like about Triple J? Looks like his place is the happenin' spot in newcomers. I can't resist a party where there are lots of fun people with good stuff to say.
Take care and I'll chat with you soon in your digs.
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
Crap, I need to rethink things here...