{{{zig}}} What you wrote above, as always, great post and great insight. Keep doing that.
labug, thanks. That is a great way of explaining it (lateral vs. upwards).
Zig, you are seeing the... connection... between betrayal and expectations. Awesome! Let me just say that there's also a distinction of moving on, which as described... is (or is based on) an expectation... (ie. Since the WAS is not changing as we expected, we're going to move ON). Moving forward OTOH, is based on no expectations...
Yes, while you may have initially reacted as he expected after BD, you changed. So yes, in that sense, it is a betrayal. Betrayal not so much as what you did or didn't do, rather about how he interpreted it internally. Although in that sense, there's probably a better word to use, than betrayal. Still, the result (for him) is the same.
I did read your bootcamp thread and what I read both from Bond and from sg "made sense" to me as being appropriate for your sitch.
Let me just say that there's also a distinction of moving on, which as described... is (or is based on) an expectation... (ie. Since the WAS is not changing as we expected, we're going to move ON). Moving forward OTOH, is based on no expectations...