Barn's burnt down--

[labug]

Thanks, Carnac. I'll read your post.

I've stood this long because I have thought up till now that the piece of paper saying we're divorced wouldn't make much difference in how I am. I needed to move through this process at my pace and have done that and become a much different person. A person my h doesn't really know at this point. That's the sad part.

Also I do have the expectation (yes, it is an expectation) that his not filing means that there is hope. I'm now close to asking for clarification on that.

The dreaded RELATIONSHIP talk.