The connection in both our lives is increasing thanks to the effort we put into it. It makes being together so much easier, and may shorten the leap back into intimacy. At this point physical intimacy is still something I think about, but still perceive it as threatening and risky.
I understand, CL. And I am by no means an expert in the sex department myself, being in a long-term SSM as I have been. However, unlike my wife, I do sense that yours does crave more initimacy, and I'd just like you to considering something as you go forward:
Taking TOO long to rebuild this part of your relationship ALSO is "risky." In fact, I think it's more risky than trying to do it now, considering your two's history.
