Thanks Cadet for your response. Life without me will look more like not being there for her when she needs me. She is a nurse and sometimes is on call. Right now we do 7 & 7 or a week and a week with our son. If she's got our son and is on call she needs to figure out what to do with him where he can stay or else she needs to adjust her schedule accordingly. I would also say no more together family parties or functions. This will be the hardest for me cause I absoutly addore her family and they are all on my side. But I think she needs to get a taste of what it's going to be like. She thinks we will be the best of friends after this. Not that I won't be there for her but she doesn't need to know that. (Do you think I'm stepping out of bounds on the family together issue since my S may be hurt by it or it hurting the family that has no fault in this matter?) No more answering any text messages from her unless it has to do with our son. Like I said I will still be kind I think I just need to be less available.
Is she thinking clearly I seriously doubt it she is in a MLC I don't think she even knows what she wants out of life right now. Other than being free from me and hanging out with her girl friends partying it up. Am I? Some days I am and some days I'm not. It's a roller coaster to say the least. But church and my faith in GOD has helped me stay level headed most of the time. It's difficult cause there is nothing I wouldn't truly do for her and my family. I wish I could help but I realize it's out of my control.
