Lots of questions and a good deal of doubt.

[2chiquitos]

hi mshaf,
I notice you have a lot of questions hoping to guide you in the right direction.

My advice is try it out once, wait patiently for the results (whatever they may be). If you don't get a negative response then try it again. Even if it's no response (that can be a positive response, sometimes).

Your wife carries a lot of the same characteristics of other WAS however not everyone responds to certain things the same. For example, when I went dark it only pushed my H away and gave him reason to continue disconnecting since he believed I was being mean and controlling just like before.

Try acting as if, and wait patiently and see what happens.
Best of luck to you when the boys come back! This is such a great opportunity for you to GAL!