Well, I've finally reached a point where I feel I need to introduce myself and seek some support and encouragement in the face of seemingly insurmountable odds. I've read DB, and realized I was already at a point in my M where I had to start implementing LRT. I've been facing an inevitable separation since just after the July 4 holiday. That is when my wife told me she doesn't have anything left to try with and wants a divorce.

Initially I did everything wrong. Until two weeks ago when I picked up M's book. The feeling of panic set in when I realized I missed the chance to try some really good advice from the book and was sitting squarely at a point of no return as far as my W leaving me. I began to implement my 180's. Things improved some. We were able to talk to each other without fighting, and she gave me the chance to talk about my realizations in how I've failed her throughout our 8 year M, and responded with "I wish you would have realized these things before I reached this point of resolve, when I would have been willing to work on things, but I have nothing left to give you."

She found an apartment this week and informed me she's moving out with our two daughters. I tried to keep with the 180 approach and not try and talk her out of it, and even helped her divide our things and help her pack. Last night we talked, she seemed very receptive to the idea of separation for a while before filing, after previously threatening to file on a daily basis. Tonight she told me she still plans to file after moving, and told me it might be easier on me to just move on. I was crushed.

I know I shouldn't have taken the bait, but I asked her if she really meant that. She said "yes, I want you to move on and I don't want to be married to you any longer".

I'm devastated right now. She seems so at peace with the thought of divorce. I'm just looking for some encouragement from someone who has faced a sitch where there seemed to be no chance at all for R, but turned things around at the eleventh hour.

Please, somebody respond with some inspiration or advice that may help me turn things around.