I am I need of some advise tonight. We as a family went to visit my MIL today, as I said in previous post she is quite sick and likely does not have long to live. She thought that W had left to run to the store so she approached me, asked how I was doing and pretty much told me W could not know she talked with me. She told me that I'm a good husband and dad. That she is very concerned about W, that she and her sister, who Mil talked about our sitch against W wishes, believe that our witch is a product of all the other things W is dealing with. I. Owned the problems that I believe we're my part, but had to agreed with Mil acessment. W told her mom about me being stressed/seeming angry when I get home from work, and that I didn't do enough around house as her reasons for thinking about D. Mil told her that there were so many worse things and they didn't seem enough to want to D over. Mil has been D twice. W has also told mil that after BD that I asked to go to MC and W refused.
Forgot this .... W had not left yet .... Walked out down by lake, and I'm sure she saw us talking but has not said anything about it to me yet.
The heart of the talk was she thinks W doesn't know what she wants, Mil aked w in a phone conversation this week about her IC W tlod her she hadn't been in 2 weeks, we have been on vac together at home with 3 kids for theese 2 weeks. Mil asked W if I was seeing Ic she said no but she wished I'd do something....? Mil knows that I asked for Mc once, I've actually asked W 2x and been refused both times.she also knows that when W told me she was going to Ic that I asked/ suggested that I go to C also but W said she didn't see the use since I knew how I wanted to proceed whereas she didn't.
Mil wants me to ask W to go to MC again, if W doesn't wanna go then go myself. I do believe it's time for me to get some help I need to be strong... I am so scared for my kids they are possibly in for a double whammy.... Grandmothers death which will happen and possible breakup of what they concider to be a very happy family unit. I'm F'd....
I know this is long and I have alot more but I'll put this out there for now.
