So it did not start off meaning to be disrespectful-actually a reference to a clock in my living room that my friends and his sister used to refer to him in the discussions so he would not fly off in a rage and accuse us of conspiring against him. As to the talk of my first ex-it came up because this one now accuses me of accepting being beaten and being too weak and stupid to stop it, which I was neither and he well knows that. Just an example of his rewriting of history in a major way that I don't understand. Why not call the police? Not sure why I do not. They were not helpful with my first ex, I want to protect him from losing his job, career, being incarcerated, not wanting to hurt him, not being scared of him, guilt for my part in this disaster, a host of reasons that probably make no rational sense. But in a crisis I just have no emotional response and especially not for flight.
