telling my story of the cuckoo

[25yearsmlc]

You had a daughter together? I don't think you mentioned that before. Can you tell us more details? That's pretty important.


Agreed....It's very important...and it's odd as heck that it wasn't mentioned previously...were you ever married before to HIM?


You know for someone who had a child together with this man, you don't sound .... right. I mean, have you gone for help to deal with your abusive relationships in the past? You say you want out, but it seems you enjoy poking the R with a stick. Plus you don't really talk about him like you've been together as long as you have and lost a child.

I must echo this^^^^....now that I've finished the thread...

I worry for him and I worry for you.

You sound educated, but you behave as if you are powerless. You are not.

Block him from your fb wall, Period. End of story. NOT a problem and NOT complicated.

Stop letting someone else dictate how your life goes. Take your power back.

As for your d, I'm so sorry for your loss.

But you cannot go with him to honor her, expecting comfort from someone who is clearly ill. I think that

You most Honor her by healing yourself and perhaps modelling that for him.

I don't see this as MLC...nope. It's far beyond that. And please know I'm coming from a place of concern here,

but seems to me that you have enough to work on in you, to become healthy for YOU-

that I can't see you taking on HIS emotional health as well.

You both need help ----that's NOT an insult but an observation. I practiced law for decades and this behavior sounds both criminal and pre-criminal,

but you only control YOU. Cognitively you probably realize this but not emotionally

or you'd stop being sucked into his drama. Sadly, we've seen suicides on this site on occasion.

So we take "dramatic" behavior and gestures and depression, pretty seriously here.

But he is not posting here, YOU ARE. So we cannot help him & neither can you.

You need to begin taking control of you.

What are you going to DO for YOUR health this week?