Our daughter Rebeccah was a healthy bright loving little girl until one day-she could not swallow, keep anything down, her esophagus collapsed, cancer found in her stomach, intestines, espohagus, lungs. She just shut down and faded away in a matter of weeks. Never cried or complained, just faded away before our eyes, passing at home with us holding her. He fell apart, so I took care of all the arrangements and her care, he would not even try to feed her or clean up when she vomited, just seemed kind of frozen. It was so overwhelming for him, and shortly after he left home to work in another state. I am sure he did the best he could but was just not able to cope well with the situation. Every year though he remembered the anniversary date, spent the day talking with me about her,looking at pictures, got flowers, kept a picture of her with him at all the places we lived together or seperate over the years, spoke of her often in general conversation. I know he loved her very much too. This year was the first year he had no tears or showed no emotion when he mentioned her. Just said it as a passing fact when the florist called to confirm the flower order. I tried not to overwhelm him or pressure him to be there or go to the grave. I just don't think he can handle it right now.
