Divorced. My fault, and cant move forward

[mshaf]

MRS D,

Listen to the vets on this board. Sometimes you will come across things or be told things you don't want to hear but it is for the best.

The DR book should absolutely work for someone in your sitch. A lot of the book is about new ways to interact with those you love(probably a good thing in your sitch), finding out the things that aren't working for you or your spouse, and most importantly finding YOURSELF (something you mentioned you need to do).

It sounds like your X still loves you, though right now he may be infatuated with the new GF. If they are as different as you say they are you probably won't have to worry about that long.

Good luck to you. Keep reading, keep posting, and DON'T GIVE UP.