Fix, I cannot argue with you about what is good for your daughter. I won't.
You see it as providing her with a conflict free place...and I agree with that.
I also think you need to show her what a man of principal looks like. Not that you aren't...how is this. Do you want your daughter to have the same marriage you and your wife have?
Book: Hold onto your NUTS by Levine.
Please, since I like almost never ever promote other books here, it should tell you how much I think you might benefit by this book.
the title is crude, and stupid, but the concepts are...amazing.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK