Will it be this way forever for Fixer??

[Fixer]

Jack,

I am always up for reading a few books. Which ones do you have in mind.

BTW - When my wife asked to use my car I said no. We got into a big fight. This is not good for our D. I want to be tough and at the same time avoid hurting her in the process. She is my #1 priority.

I'm still trying to get a hold of a MC, but haven't gotten a call from the person who books new patience. Will try again next week

[Jack_Three_Beans]

Fix, I cannot argue with you about what is good for your daughter. I won't.

You see it as providing her with a conflict free place...and I agree with that.

I also think you need to show her what a man of principal looks like. Not that you aren't...how is this. Do you want your daughter to have the same marriage you and your wife have?

Book: Hold onto your NUTS by Levine.

Please, since I like almost never ever promote other books here, it should tell you how much I think you might benefit by this book.

the title is crude, and stupid, but the concepts are...amazing.

[Fixer]

Almost done with the book. Will read it again and again. A few chapters and concepts hit close to home.

Not like the DB books that I give as gifts to friends in need; I'll keep this one to myself. Or at least until I put some of these ideas into action for awhile.

Thank,

Fixer

[Fixer]

I'm back at marriage couceloring but by myself. I've had two sessions and it seems to help. We layed down the ground rules of what I want. She's helping me to cope with my current situation. She suggested we try something called "planned acceptance".

[forward]

Fixer, You sound as if you are doing all the right things.

[Fixer]

My wife is going to see if she can get a loan to repair the car. Her credit is not good so I volunteered to co-sign her application. If she can't get the loan I will pay for the repairs but she's paying me back. Believe me I will get the money back. I think this is something she needs to do. Not only will it help build her credit, it may help her feel better about herself.

[Fixer]

Had another MC session. It wasn't too bad

She gave me a handout on something called dialectical behavior therapy.

Yet another way to learn how to deal with my thoughts and emotions.