Just Found Out About The OM, What Now?

[NASCARDaddy]

How is the divorce coming along since you have been served ?

So what have you done ?

Legally ?

Planning ?

Parenting ?

Well like I said, things are in limbo right now. Unless I sign a waiver that says I agree to waive the 90 day cooling off period the earliest that the court will even look at the divorce petition is October 22, and I know that the court here is backed up enough that it will probably be even longer than that.

Legally I am not doing much. I have been in touch with a lawyer and at his advice I have chosen not to contest the divorce. If she wants to go through with it then she can have it. But I have told her that I will not sign the waiver. She can have the divorce, but there is a reason that the State put that waiting period in place and that is to give people a chance to rethink their decisions and to reevaluate their emotions.

Planning wise, I am making some preliminary plans but I am also sort of taking a wait and see approach to it. I am going to save some money to get my own place if needed but I don't want to get into a lease and then in a month or two end up stuck if she decides that she wants to get back together. The one thing I do plan on doing is getting my own car so I don't have to rely on my brother or my W if I need a vehicle for something.

Parenting is something that I am really focusing on. I am trying to make sure that when my kids are with me they have fun and are happy when W picks them up. Our therapist has pointed out to me that she really seems focused on the kids and that if I build a good relationship with the kids then that could very possibly carry over to my relationship with her. Last night when she came to pick them up from visiting me all but one of my kids gave me a hug before the left. I had been out at the car talking to my W about some overdue library books that needed to be turned in so she say all the kids give me a hug. One of her claims is that she is divorcing me so that the kids will have a better life, so for her to see that works in my favor I think.