Not sure if there is OM involved or not, and honestly don't give a ratz A$$! If there is, I wouldn't blame her a bit. I really hit bottom and totally abondoned the Confident & Fun-Loving Guy that her and everyone else loved me for.
Suppo, do you really mean this? ^^^ I read your posts, and unless I missed something, "not being confident and fun-loving" isn't really a good reason for someone to cheat on their spouse and break their marital vows.
Just how badly did you mistreat your wife?
I'm concerned because I see in her a repeat cheater, and you seem to be willing to too-easily forgive and just take her back "at any price." That's certainly your choice, but it's rarely a recipe for success; in fact, I'm almost certain that she can smell your fear.
To tie into your username, "supplication" rarely works in CREATING ATTRACTION with a walkaway wife. In fact, you need to do the exact OPPOSITE -- detach, be LESS available, LESS needy, LESS supplicating, etc.