Starsky and Kaffe, I have really benefited from reading your advice. My H and I are currently living separately. (He moved back into a house he owned before we married where his grown son is also living.) He stops by to see me regularly and still says he loves me but wants a divorce (there is no A, that's not how he's wired), that I'm one of the best women in the world but he didn't feel accepted by me (this is about the fifth different reason he's given me) and then when I say OK to the divorce he backtracks and says he'll think about it and then we end up being intimate (at his suggestion). This cycle has repeated about three or four times. I just go dark but friendly in between. Any other advice or suggestions?
