Need help with detaching and hoping to reconcile.

[lillystillinlove]

Ok, I need help with a really bad habit of mine. If I sense my H is displeased with something regarding my actions. If he notices something wrong before I do or before I have a chance to correct it I feel instant guilt and apologize, usually try to "explain" (excuse). I really hate this about myself but it almost seems reflexive. I don't think he is looking for an apology, I don't think it's his issue at all. Here is an example; last night H was helping S with homework, he looked through the rest of the homework package and found a page that was incomplete that I had not noticed. He said something (a little snotty) and looked at me with, what I call, his your such an idiot look. I immediately jumped into an explanation and eventually just apologize.

I'm not accusing my H of anything here. This is my problem. I think most of these situations could be turned around, I could use a different approach and diffuse the tension I instantly feel. The only thing I can think of is instead of excuses and apologies I could say something like "it's a good thing you looked or saw or whatever, it's helpful to have a second set of eyes, thanks"

Does anyone have any suggestions? I'm reading codependent no more and it's helped me recognize some behaviors I have but for some reason I'm having trouble getting through it.