Not sure if I did the wrong thing so I'm sending it out.
I feel my wife is using me for my money. She can't commit to go out with me once a month. She will not go to back to MC with me. She doesn't act like a w at all I told her about two weeks ago that I wasn't paying for her stuff anymore If she wants a new car to pay for it herself. If her car needs to go to the shop to pay for it herself. Well her car keeps making this loud noise. A mechanic already looked at the problem and fixed it once. The problem is back and our mechanic told me before that the car was drivable but when it came to parking the car it would take a little more strength to turn the wheel. She wanted to take my car and I said absolutely not.
You're still in the home, still married,- what exactly IS your financial arrangement? Does she work? How do you split the bills normally?
What I guess I'm getting at it this - if you normally would pay for the repair, and you are still hoping to stay in the home with your daughter - maybe you need to have clearer guidelines for what the financial aspects of this "in-home separation" will look like.
If you're just mad at her for refusing MC - this looks a bit like childish tit for tat. Not helping your cause if you still hope for reconciliation.
On the other hand, if you are DONE with the marriage, and feel this is a reasonable thing to deny, then fine.
She wanted to take my car and I said absolutely not.
This is a big 180 for me. Inside I want to help.
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smile big big, cause that is awesome.
All that desire to help, and all that help of you gave, has done what for you? Other than...I believe make you feel bad inside. Like...maybe she'll appreciate it this time.
That is a BIG step Fixer a very cool and a very hard one to make, for a Nice guy....which you are. And there is nothing wrong with being a nice guy, right up until someone keeps taking advantage of it.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
Our M has been done for a while. My d is 14 years old. I told my wife last month we need to split the bills down the middle. I've absorbed thousands of dollars of her debts. Last week I paid half of the repairs to fix the A/C in her mom's car. She works and keeps the money our border pays. I thought our border wasn't paying any money but she kept it. When I told her our border would need to pay rent she didn't tell me he was already paying. To be honest I really don't know where her money goes. I offered to set up a budget with her but that didn't happen
Jack -- Thanks for understanding. Would this be a LRT
I hope I didn't misguide you. We are still married I begged her for a divorce years ago. Her answer to every R hurdle is I don't know. Do not know if she loves me. Do not know if she wants to go to a MC. Won't agree to go out with me once a month.
I don't care about the rent. I told her how I felt about the whole thing. When I told her I wasn't shelling out anymore dough. I told her to use the rent money for any car repairs. This was before her car started making this loud noise.
