When she asked you if anything was wrong I can assure you she was talking about at this very moment....not is anything wrong in general with your life...she knows about the other no need to rehash those things. She was fishing to see if you were ok with her being out all night I would think so thats why she wanted to know if anything was wrong.
Yep -- it was a test, and you failed it. Like it or not, women like to test their men, to see if they can make them feel safe in the relationship.
My wife had an affair, five years ago. One night, she said she would be home "at a decent hour" (which, in our house would mean like 10:30 or 11:30 -- maybe midnight at the latest). She even texted me around 11:00 to say "I'll be home soon" (she had lied about where she was going, but my intel told me she was with OM, so I was certain).
She came home at 1:15.
What did she come home to? A locked house, with all of the lights off, including the driveway and front porch lights.
The next day, I told her "I'm glad you're safe, but if you're going to disrespect me by coming home after midnight, then please just stay out all night. I won't have our marital home become a hotel for you."
She never did it again.
Your wife doesn't respect you, AA, and since women tie their feelings of love very closely with their feelings of respect, she's LOSING ATTRACTION for you when you don't stand up to her. I'm NOT saying "be an ass" -- just lovingly and firmly tell her that it's disrespectful to you and to your marriage for her to stay out until 6am, and then lie to you about who she was with.
That's what I would do. That is what I DID. She initially was PI*SED at me, but she got over it in less than 24 hours, and her respect for me GREW.
