People re: the last post specifically going dark - I really need to do lots of self mending:
1. Getting out of the chaos. 2. Breathing space (for us both) 3. Stop, stop, STOP bugging the life out of W 4. Using it to do a 180. Stop trying to fix things all the damn time!
Sparky put it so very well in a post he made……
Going dark is the chance to work on you and to allow the spouse that left you to go through the journey they need to go through. If you start butting into that when they have made it clear that they don't want to be with you, then you come off as someone who is not honoring their request. You are short-circuiting the journey they have to go through to work out what is going on inside themselves.
I know this is as painful for my W as it is for me. I don't wish this on her. But it's something I have to respect.
Communication channels are fully functional!
Off to see the "friend around the corner" for a coffee.
