I'm just trying to figure out how I should act when in his company ... we do have our children in common, so there will be many times where we will cross paths. I'm not angry, or anything, so I can't just not talk to him. I guess this is a "play it by ear" situation.
BM, I think this is where we really need to take into consideration that this person may or may not be the person that we originally left.
Play it by ear is absolutely right. The cognitive dissonance of seeing someone how physically is an exact duplicate of our our spouse, sets us up to interact with them as we did our original spouse.
Getting past THAT ^^^^^^ and doing your best to treat this person like a total stranger, may be key. No, not as in "don't talk to strangers", rather realize, you do not know this person, so you are, for all intents and purposes, getting to know this person for the very first time.
Add to that they have their past memories of us which will cause them to behave as if we DO know them... creates an odd sitch.
What would you do with a stranger? How would you get to know them?
