The MLCer's descent to inevitable crash and burn

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Kimmerz,
I have read the books on mlc by Jim and Sally Conway. Sally's book is written in a way that the lbs understands what their spouse is doing. Sally passed away a few years ago, but her book still lives on and it is very good. Jim's book is good as well and he has a on line group to meet up and chat, very similiar to this one.

Now about the stages, yes, they will bounce from one stage to another. The acceptance stage is the only stage (at the very end) that they will not go back through all of the stages. Kaffe and Mirage have provided excellent comments on mlc and the stages for you.

Mlcers must go through all of the stages and come out the other end. Just because you let go and move on w/your life, doesn't mean that they will snap out of it. Oh, they may come back to earth and appear normal, but if they have not completed the entire crisis, they will have another crisis later on and it will be far worse than the one they put on hold. Many posters believe that if they change, move on or do certain things, it will "rush" the crisis and it will not. Posters will learn as they walk the path that this is not about them and there is absolutely nothing they can do to bring their spouses back to earth. The only thing we can do is let them go and love them unconditionally. Yeah, even when they are @sses we have to look deeper and yes, it's the behavior that we hate, not the person.

Kimmerz, you've read many of the books that I have read and they are all excellent. Take the knowledge you have acquired and allow it to help you let him go in a loving manner. If he should wake up and want to be w/you again, he will find a way to make that happen. Until that time...live your life to the fullest and enjoy your children, as they are growing up quickly.

So, on a lighter note, what do you and the girls have planned for the weekend?