MLC with depression....double the fun!

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In MLC stages I am reading MLCers may, through anger and rebellion, see their spouse as a mother figure rather than his wife.

When we pick our spouses we unconsiously pick the best traits of our opposite sex parent and the opposite of the their worst traits.

So your husband viewing you as his momma is not unusual.

You may have picked out some traits of your father in your husband and the opposite of any of your fathers BAD traits.

I do not think your boundary is enforceable.
You can try but how will you enforce it when he breaks it?

Normally a boundary is something like I will not have a relationship with you if you do _______.
Or I will not speak to you if you do _______.

Those are ones that you can enforce because YOU CONTROL what is to be done.

Also know that a BOUNDARY may not speed up his crisis, it just may not help to slow it down.

It is protecting YOU.

Hope that helps