"you know that this could take a while, possibly months" this one grin

or this
"you have some investigative work to do.. No, I don't mean snooping....
... you need to find out what need your spouse is fulfilling by spending time with this person so that you can do a better job fulfilling that need yourself"

actually - when i reread that again i stopped - is she actually suggesting you spend time with OP to find out what they are fulfilling? i surely must be reading that wrong. got to put that dang bottle a way for a bit

pg 217 - make a full life for yourself (that's what coach said)

sorry i'm not sure i got it correct - your hint

still working on my answer..

me 46 H 38
M10yrs T 11
S10
BD ow 8/11
h filed 9/25/12


"if i could define enlightenment briefly, i would say it is the quiet acceptance of what is"