KD - sometimes you are so d@mn cryptic, I have no idea what you are saying!!
maybe it's all that dang black label... hard to walk around here with all them empty bottles... lol...
If the LBS has second thoughts about dropping the rope, moving on, and filing D... then they aren't done, yet.
One can have regret staying too long in recovery as chatter stated. ie. missing out on a new, fresh life because they were still standing for a R that never happens.
One can have regret for moving on and filing D because they think that maybe if they had waited one more month, one more year... if they have done one more thing...
There is potential to regret EITHER decision. So if you keep standing, do not regret it, you are choosing to. If you choose to move on and file D, do not regret it, you are choosing to.
Don't stay stuck in indecision because you fear regret. Just make a choice when you decide to, and own that responsibility.
And here's something else... for every moment the LBS does not make a choice... it's a choice by proxy, to stay standing. Every LBS who thinks they are in limbo, is actually choosing to continue to stand. Own the choice, call it something other than limbo, and keep standing. Or.... move on...
That's not a challenge to you, I'm just stating in a different way, the "do or don't do, there is no try" ism... All LBS face this.
Now, just because you move on, does not mean you need to D. I had a friend who M last year. They went to get the paperwork and the judge indicated that her fiancée was still M and needed to get the old M legally ended, first. While he probably didn't "forget", it was a legal separation from 10 years prior and he obviously got so used to "not being M", that he didn't realize the paperwork hadn't been done.
He only NEEDED to D, because he was getting M.
So that question is for you. Why D, unless you need to? What does D "mean" to you? What are your reasons to D? How does D... serve you...?
