Need help with detaching and hoping to reconcile.

[lillystillinlove]

Well he was crabby tonight. S had Tae Kwon Do belt testing then H came over to hang for a while and eat dinner. I did manage to "detach". H got frustrated helping S with homework and instead of saying don't worry about it I'll do, I let him continue to stress out until he said to S that I (me) would help him with that page. Normally I would try to calm the situation down because H can get a little spun up but I let him be his own regulator. Something I didn't expect was that I realized he didn't have anything to be angry at me about. He couldn't lash out at me because I was butting in. I'm not really sure how to explain this. Normally, if I were to step in it would give him the opening to get mad at me for making him feel like he wasn't capable of keeping his temper under control when frustrated at our S. Believe me it is not hard to get frustrated with S(6) but we are both working on it. Today was especially trying due to belt testing and homework and dinner and... Why do 2nd graders have so much homework, geez.

Anyway, In reading a lot of threads on this site I've noticed that the roller coaster of nice/sweet/funny WAS is heavily tempered by the angry/short/moody WAS.

Breathe
No expectations