MLC with depression....double the fun!

[albamarie]

Since we have been together my H has called me "mama" his spiritually enduring way to address me.

He has never stopped addressing me this way and I am starting to worry about the effects it may have.

In MLC stages I am reading MLCers may, through anger and rebellion, see their spouse as a mother figure rather than his wife.

I am not sure if a nickname would be cause for him to create that parental vision of me. I tend to think it would have been there anyway as the wife, caregiver, and mother to all.

Anyway, I'm wondering if I should have him call me by my name. Create a boundary in our relationship?

But, then am I not taking away something unique to our relationship that has belonged to him all these years? He may see it as me trying to create a separation between us.

I think if I make boundaries there not suppose to be so "in your face" more behind the scene, subtle changes that he doesn't recognize easily.

It's still sweet when he says it but then I recoil at the idea that he is not the same loving man.