Betsey,
Not only do you have more hours in your day somehow, but you also have way more imagination than the average bear!

I got not one thing done today. Wait, I take that back- I conversed with some great people, and I am learning more about myself through them. That beats scrubbing the tub any day!

So, what did you think about a letter to my FIL? Do you think it is a waste of time? I just want to put that all behind me. And honestly, I fear for the day that he dies (which shouldn't be too far off, because he smokes like a chimney and has had 2 heart attacks already)because I know that H will be DEVESTATED (unless he gets a lot of this unfinished business resolved), and he will not allow me to comfort him because he will think that I hated the man anyway! Hope you followed that huge sentence! I guess I am thinking way too far ahead. But that's what I do!
So, you see, I would like to at least make a good faith gesture of some sort. Not for him, not for H, but for me. This has been a thorn in my side for too long.