Partner left after 9 yrs - reconciled now married!

[AliSuddenly]

Well... I finally remembered my login details !!!

I just wanted to check back in with some of my old friends here. Its funny, I still feel some sense of responsibility to update and tell anyone who is reading, that we did make it, we did 'piece' and so far, so good. Little Daisy is 13 1/2 months old now and has been walking for a month! She is very very sweet, such a good baby, smiles all the time, is very calm and happy and hardly ever cries and never whinges and sleeps... 13 hours straight some nights until 8.30 am.. no kidding ! She did wake at 7 this morning though, so she can be normal sometimes

Everyone says that she is a reflection of me and H, she is calm and happy and laughs alot. We are very calm and happy around her as there is never really any tension between us and we H is brilliant with her, very hands on Dad.

H had to go and work again for the local organisation here where Helen worked (ow) and that was before Christmas for a few weeks.. well, whether he knew or didnt, but he ended up covering someones maternity leave and working there until NOW ! That person is back now, but he is still working full-time in that office, basically sharing an office with ow.

He came home a few weeks ago and told me that she was getting married. He said that he thought I would like to know. He never refers to her by name, EVER, he's never uttered it to me. He doesnt even say "she", like he cant bear to. I was careful not to ask about her since he was working there as we have all moved on and its not relevant and he would prefer NOT to have to work there, with her, but he had no choise. So to be kind to him, I didnt make a fuss. But after so many months I cracked and I did ask him about her, whether they were friends, chatted much etc and he said not really but they were pleasant/polite and it really wasnt a big deal, theres NO issue and for him its a long long time ago now and has no effect on him etc and anyway.. he said she was getting married. I think that was last weekend.

I find it interesting, because it could have been him. I said that to him and he shot me a withering look and said, uh, no it wouldnt have been ! Its 3 years since we saw her that time in a bar after we had reconciled, she was still single and very angry at H that he was back with me. So in that time she has met and got engaged and married to someone new. I always had this intuition about her that she was desperate to marry, settle down and have babies and was fearful at one point he may go along with that.. I later found out she had hinted, told him she loved him and asked him to move in with her. So.. I guess I was so lucky in many ways. In an alternate universe maybe he would have been married to her with a 1 year old!

I'm glad for her that she is happy now and I said as much to him.

I had 2 friends split with their partners recently with kids involved.. they both just feel so down and stressed and like 'well thats it then, now he has moved out' and so I tell them my story and Kalni too and I always say.. well, never say never right...