I fall somewhere in the middle of all of this. I believe that I had success utilizing both approaches. It all depended on the situation at the time. Unique situations need unique solutions... using DB as the framework.
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce