The issue I have with it is that people will excuse away so much poor behavior by labeling it MLC when it really is someone doing extremely selfish and hurtful things because they feel they can. And when they are given the excuse of oh MLC. Then they just feed of being enabled.
And the LBS excuses it away because they do not want to deal with the reality that yes the person they love can actually be a hateful , hurting person who really does not care at this point in time the damage they cause.
NOPE I don't agree that anyone here is giving out the advice to excuse it away. There is NO EXCUSE for this type of behavior.
It might be part of the Dis-Ease but that does not excuse it.
I don't see anyone saying NOT to have boundaries.
I also do not think that some of the more extreme CONTROL methods will turn this Dis-Ease around.
