Time for an Introduction...and Thanks

[greatwhitenorth]

Hi FII

I don't have kids and as a result have no insight with regards to a family situation, but it sounds like you have been motoring along as best you can and are at a critical crossroads and need some precise and hard hitting advice.

It sounds like your H has checked out.
You are GAL, which is good.

In my limited perspective I would say that if this is the path your H insists on taking, then so be it. Make absolutely certain that your and your children's financial needs are taken care of. Do not deviate from this. It is job #1.

Give absolutely no credence to his remarks about not knowing what will happen "down the line". It's BS, potentially to try and appease you so you will give him what he wants. He knows exactly what will happen down the line. His position/perspective/expectations might change in the future, but for today, he knows.

I would not try to maintain a friendly relationship with him. A cordial one, yes, but a friendly one, no. He is an acquaintance, a business partner, that's it that's all. You care about him in so far as he's your childrens' father but that is it. He is not your friend right now and needs to understand this.

The vets probably would have some good advice for you so I wanted to bump your thread.