I think this all boils down to what starsky said (at least I think it was him) What does Denver need?
I mean, it's clear, that Bond would need his W to admit that she cheated, etc and was contrite. Personally, from what Denver has posted, I think he needs that too. he's mentioned numerous times trying to change his wife's view on this.
The problem here is that his W won't concede that - ever. I do think it would be healthy for his W to see things from his side (while technically not admitting to it) One of the greatest strengths in communication is seeing your other side's point...even if you 100% disagree with it.
Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet. --Jean Jacques Rousseau.