Time for an Introduction...and Thanks

[figure-it-out]

Just journaling I guess. I have not received much feedback to my situation.
Next court appointment on 9/18. H has informed me he will be out of town working the month of Sept. He has no representation, I do. H has been very slow to fil out any type of paperwork. I was served 4/11, first court appt 9/11 where we were given 6 more mos. to get information together. I have responded to what information my atty. has requested, H has not. Last court date in March led him to be reprimanded by the judge saying get your updated expense declaration filled out within 6 weeks or I'm fining you. He filled out the form (incompletely) and filed it the day before it was due.
The children have been told and he has removed more of the items I have packed up. I still do not want this but don't know what to do.
After speaking to my atty she indicates she will appear next month and either 1. say we are working on a settlement, knowing that the judge may give her 60 days to get that done 2. ask for a dismissal 3. ask for 6 more months. Atty says we will be pushed in direction of divorce either by judge ordering mandatory settlement conference or straight to trial as this has been going on nearly 2 years.
H says he will get an atty. but recently purchased a refrigerator for my home which he says used the $$ he was saving in case he needed an atty.
I'm torn, I know he is living with someone else and have read from others here that there is really nothing to be gained until that person is out of the picture.
The relationship whatever it is seems so odd to me... he is with my son at his mothers house every weekend, he spends every holiday with us at his mothers house. Mother's day and Father's day he initiated staying at our home the evening prior. He randomly showed up at our home yesterday and ended up staying from 3:30 - 8:00, eating dinner, hanging out with the kids, talking to me about his job, etc. It just feels like he's not very invested in this "new" relationship but I know that's just mind reading. I think it's convenient to him. He is giving me the majority of his check every 2 weeks only keeping mabye $200 for himself from each so my assumtion is he is completely supported by her.
Aside from all of this, I am continuting to GAL. I have kept working out. Purchasing time from different gyms/activites through Gropuon, etc. in the hopes of meeting new people. I continue my IC and continue to have a relationship with my in-laws that does not include talking about my situation with my H. I frequently go to movies, dinners, etc. with friends.
My IC feels my H has to see this divorce through for some reason. He has in fact referenced the fact that he doesn't know what's going to happen and we will see what happens "down the line".
Sorry to ramble, just wanted to see what everyone thought. Should I just make this as easy as possible right now knowing this is probably inevitable anyway? Try and maintain as friendly a relationship as I can while not letting him take advantage of me with the specifics of the divorce? He's saying now he will give me whatever I want. He just feels so desperate to by OUT.
Thanks for any insight you may have. I am truly lost. I thought I was doing better when this was still kind of "out there" in the future. It seems to be picking up speed coming much faster. I just don't know if making things more difficult will help me in my ultimate goal...my family and (better) marriage intact.