DBing and MLC: why the label?

[MrBond]

MLC is "real", but it's not a disease. That's what some newbies have a tough time understanding. The "expect" it to be cured over time or that it is somehow a bad thing.

We all go through it in varying degrees. It's a life change. The thing that makes it real is that in the extreme cases, there are many startling similar behaviors that the person who goes through it experiences.

But it is all about choices. You either choose to stay married or you don't.

This has nothing to do with DB. DB are the series of actions you choose to do to strengthen yourself from the onslaught of an attack on M. It doesn't matter if it's an A or if it's MLC. DB is a skill set to help handle everything and survive.

Again, not all midlilfe "transitions" are bad. Sometimes you choose a new career, sometimes you just choose to workout and lose weight, sometimes you decide to start a family when before you didn't want one. It only becomes a "crisis" when you start tearing everything down in your life and start from scratch.